Failure is an inevitable experience. Regardless of how hard we try to avoid failure, it will always find its way to us eventually.
Failure is often hard to deal with because it exposes our mistakes and the things we didn't do well - it can be a painful process.
But how can we learn to deal with failure and the feelings that accompany it? I like to ask myself two questions to turn a negative experience into an educational one.
Question 1: What can I learn from this experience?
It is easy to fall into the trap of negative self talk when we experience failure. We can be quite hard and unnecessarily unfair on ourselves. Instead of replaying the negative experience over and over again with no educational analysis, we can limit the negative experience by focusing on what we will do better next time instead of focusing on what we did badly this time.
Question 2: Why am I grateful for this experience?
This is a tougher question to answer because it forces you to extract gratitude from a negative experience. By focusing on what you can be grateful for instead of what you can be unhappy about, you allow yourself the opportunity to grow from an outcome that is usually perceived as a justification for why you shouldn't attempt a similar task again. Gratitude in situations of failure allows for growth.
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I am a young advisor to Off The Record Bristol, a young persons confidential mental health service dedicated to helping young people through a multitude of treatments and services. You can find out more about them here.
Failure is often hard to deal with because it exposes our mistakes and the things we didn't do well - it can be a painful process.
But how can we learn to deal with failure and the feelings that accompany it? I like to ask myself two questions to turn a negative experience into an educational one.
Question 1: What can I learn from this experience?
It is easy to fall into the trap of negative self talk when we experience failure. We can be quite hard and unnecessarily unfair on ourselves. Instead of replaying the negative experience over and over again with no educational analysis, we can limit the negative experience by focusing on what we will do better next time instead of focusing on what we did badly this time.
Question 2: Why am I grateful for this experience?
This is a tougher question to answer because it forces you to extract gratitude from a negative experience. By focusing on what you can be grateful for instead of what you can be unhappy about, you allow yourself the opportunity to grow from an outcome that is usually perceived as a justification for why you shouldn't attempt a similar task again. Gratitude in situations of failure allows for growth.
__________________________________________________________________________________
Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I hope that it helps you in some way. I would love to connect with you on social media. You can find my pages below:
___________________________________________________________________________________
Other articles and projects
I also write for Rife Magazine - to read my content on there, please click here.
I am a young advisor to Off The Record Bristol, a young persons confidential mental health service dedicated to helping young people through a multitude of treatments and services. You can find out more about them here.
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