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(EXPERIENCE)Dealing With The Entitlement Complex

When it comes to achieving goals that we have set for ourselves, we can become ruled by expectation. We may believe that a set amount of work will eventually lead to a set result - if we work hard then we will get exactly what it is that we want from life. Whilst this statement is true to some extent, it is important not to be sucked into this potentially maladaptive expectation.

As with anything in life, because there is a general rule it does not mean that that rule applies to your specific, individual scenario. Believing in the notion that hard work will eventually lead to results can leave lots of people disappointed - not because the statement is a lie but rather because the timeframe between the goal that is set and the time that the goal is achieved is severly underestimated.

This is where the notion of entitlement can be seen clearer.

Just because somebody achieved a goal in fairly quick succession does not mean that you are entitled to that experience as well. Just because somebody got a phenomenal opportunity after a year of hard work does not mean that situation will unfold for you.

There are numerous entitlement complex's that exist under the surface of most people that set goals, myself included. We may believe that this what we are owed for the work that we put in and this is never the case - you are simply not that big of a deal.

Confronting this idea and accepting this idea allows us to stop waiting for what we believe is owed to us and instead work towards earning those opportunities regardless of the time frame that we compare ourselves with others to.

Your success is dependent on two things - how hungry you are to succeed, and how long your are willing to wait to eat.

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